Sunday, February 24, 2013
Screaming children in public places
Did anyone else see this news article?
Is this Fair or Not?
I know I am an older mother, and I don't have littlies anymore, but I would be interested to hear what others thought?
I personally hate hearing screaming kids in the shopping centres. It drives me nuts, and all I want to do is get the hell out of there. The areas are large and echoey and the noise is horrendous. I know the Mums/Dads don't hear it as sensitivity as others but surely they know that their kids are making a racket? And I am not talking about a crying baby here, I am talking about kids who are capable of knowing better, kids who should have been taught to use inside voices and that when they are out, to behave.
Why is it ok for a small minority of little children to create such a noise and disturb so many, and we all have to smile and put up with it? I know parenting is hard and continuous, but don't we have a responsibility to teach children how and when to behave?
Yes, I had kids. Yes, I took them shopping. Yes, they were normal and had days where I could have killed them. But no, I did not tolerate them screaming and throwing tantrums in public places. I used parenting skills to either diffuse the tantrum, or if too late, removed them from a public place so we did not disturb other peoples right to a quiet time. I did not ignore it. I did not make other people part of my problem. When we got home, I would take the time to explain why that behavior was not appropriate - including evoking empathy and how it wasn't fair that other people were disturbed. I would have also told them that unless we can behave well when out, then we won't be able to go out again. Consequences for our actions.
It's not hard to take the screaming child outside, or back to your car, and apply whatever discipline is appropriate. Yes, their shopping day is ruined, but then its their kid. Why should everyone else around them have their shopping day disturbed too?
If parents are made to remove their screaming child, then maybe they will spend a little more time at home teaching kids to be respectful when they are in public and some self control.
Or, sadly, it could just be that there are certain parents out there that don't give a damn, have no skills when it comes to being a parent and this behavior is something we have to put up with. I hope not.