Thursday, April 11, 2013
Can women have it all and more important, do they want it?
It has been a recurring theme I seem to keep bumping into, one way or another. I have tried to stay out of it, or at least tried to keep my opinion to myself, but each time I read more or see more, I get more and more distressed. The issue is - can women really have it all? Or maybe, do we WANT it all?
My generation, and downwards, has certainly been told we can and should. And its almost a travesty if we don't take it and run, after all, our mothers and grandmothers worked long and hard for our so called equality. A lot of it I am very grateful for, being able to work in any job/career I so choose, being financially independent and not reliant on a husband, the pill, having an opinion I can voice. The list goes on.
But there is a growing concern, both by myself and others, that telling women they can have it all, and then expecting them to do so, is having a detrimental effect. On their health, mental and physical, their happiness, their future.
I worry for these young women, I really do. I worry that the choices they have been expected to make are not fair. They put aside the one thing they can't change, and that's their biological clock. So many are going to uni, getting a great job, building a career, finding a husband (or not) and then, after this checklist is ticked off, they look to a family. A child. But by this time, they are well into their 30's and 40's and time is against them. It's not so easy to fall pregnant, or stay pregnant. Their body is winding down its fertile phase. A lot miss the boat. Will they, as old women, resent this? Will they feel betrayed by women singing the virtues of having it all?
Our bodies are designed to have children in our 20's. That's biology. How can we argue with that? I have a lot more to say, and will need to corral these thoughts into a coherent argument. It will make a good essay subject, but for now, I thought it may be a good thought provoker for my bloggers.
What are your thoughts?
A story about a 38 yr old women wanting a child.
I watched Q&A this week - I normally have to walk away from the TV Monday nights as I yell at it (the TV, not Monday) too much.
But this was worth watching and very interesting - women talking about this very subject.
ABC IView - Q&A